It seems like we all have different priorities in life. For some, the pursuit of money, for others, vacations as often as possible. Whatever our priorities in life, we seem to make time and means for those things to happen. One of my top priorities in life has been to keep organized. While I may not match the stereotypical guy, I take pride in keeping things in place. It means a safe haven where I feel comfortable and confident when others see, where they will not feel awkward or focus on the deficiencies. Without kids, the only true deterrent to making this happen was really a lack of hard work. Anyone can keep something at least as clean as it was by taking a couple extra minutes to get it back that way.
Becoming a father doesn't automatically change priorities. Women, don't think that your husband will automatically become a different man because there is a child in his life. While kids may always come first, it's easy to forget that they may take up more time than you have. In the past I was able to fulfill many of my priorities, with kids I can do so only when they cooperate (which may or may not happen at any given moment.) The extra few minutes are spent bathing the kids, getting them ready for bed, or cleaning up a mess you didn't even create. It can be frustrating when our priorities have only been shifted because we have kids, but have not truly understood what it means to make a child our priority.
Being a father is a wonderful blessing. If you've been there, you'll understand why. I realize more everyday how much it means to come home to a little person who looks forward to seeing you and idolizes you. I'm learning to change my priorities, and as I look at my daughter, I am grateful for her help!
